You’re Not Confused, You’re Just Unwilling to Make a Sacrifice

Your confusion is directly related to how willing you are to let go so that you can continue forward on your path.

You want it both ways. You want the outcome without the journey. You want the reward without the risk. Ultimately, what you want is to avoid necessary sacrifice.

I use the word ‘necessary’ intentionally because there will be many instances throughout your journey where sacrifice won’t be necessary. Your ego will trick you into believing that you have to give up the people or things most aligned with you as some sort of rite of passage, but all it’s really trying to do is reinforce your self-limiting beliefs. This kind of sacrifice is a sneaky attempt at holding you back and keeping you small to appeal to those who have conditioned you to believe that being any other way will lead to rejection and abandonment.

The kind of sacrifice I want to discuss in this essay is the sacrifice that’s required to move from one psychological room to the next. To do this, a door must be opened and another must be subsequently closed. There will always be an ending to follow a beginning, and that can be incredibly painful to accept. When you don’t accept this experience, you’ll find yourself stuck on the threshold between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming. This liminal space will feel eerie and uncomfortable because that’s exactly what it is. You’re existing between two worlds, never truly a part of either. There’s no solid ground beneath your feet to steady your strides, so you don’t move at all. You begin to believe that what’s here and now is all that is and will ever be. You convince yourself that stagnancy is safer than sacrifice.