Scarcity Is a Sign They Aren’t Meant for You

You can’t and won’t feel like more within a relationship that isn’t giving you enough.

Scarcity can often be perceived as a sign that something or someone holds value. The more you yearn, ache, desire, but can never have, the more you might begin to believe that the object of your yearning is worth the struggle. Scarcity creates enough space between you and what you desire to breed dissatisfaction that leads to more yearning. It becomes a cycle where your lack of fulfillment becomes the catalyst to the chase, urging you to continue on the hamster wheel toward something or someone that is always out of reach.

With regard to relationships, the fact that this person is always out of reach is what can make them so tantalizing. If value is perceived by how accessible or scarce a resource is, then their lack of accessibility becomes the reason why they appear more worthwhile. Over time, the desire to acquire them becomes a challenge to the ego rather than a reflection of true alignment. This is why I believe that the presence of scarcity within a relationship dynamic is a sign that this person isn’t meant for you.